Lately I have been trying to take stock of myself, and when I catch myself doing that I stop, reign back the automatic voice in my head and I say to myself: “Jessica, if that’s what you want to do then you are going to clear your mind, step back and simply be for a few moments.”
It is not fair when we jump unthinking head-first in evaluating our pros and cons especially since the cons tend to outweigh the pros. We feel that lingering in the cons will somehow make us overcome, get better, solve issues, etc. I am here to tell you that it doesn’t quite work that way, when we linger in the cons, we become judgmental and achieve a ton of self-loathing (yuk). Rarely do we obtain a true evaluation by viewing the cons.
However, unless you are a narcissist, evaluating your pros is good. You objectively lay out what you like about yourself and what you are good at…and what you enjoy. And it is this exercise in self-love that achieves great outcomes because we feel good about ourselves, our outlook is positive.
It might help to make a list of what you like about yourself…be honest. Then make a list about what you could (and will) improve…no cons, just room to be the bestest best you. Then think of this quote: “A goal without a plan is just a wish.” Don’t exercise your wish muscle, exercise your intention muscle.